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By Rod Denton, Equipping The Next Generation 

Qualities of a Great Leader, Part 3: Two Relational Qualities

This is the third post in a 4-part series about great leaders that took me 36 years to write. Here are the categories of the 30 leadership qualities I will enumerate:

  1. Six Foundational Qualities
  2. Five Spiritual Qualities
  3. Two Relational Qualities
  4. Seventeen Essential Leadership Qualities

When God wants to get something done, He finds a person, but not just any person. He looks for a person with certain qualities.


Great leaders who achieve great things are characterised by certain qualities.

In addition to the six foundational qualities shared in Part 1 and five spiritual qualities in Part 2, there are relational characteristics consistently found in great leaders. These are two must-haves:

Relational Leadership Qualities


12. Self-Leadership (relation to self)

Therefore, I do not run like a man running aimlessly; I do not fight like a man beating the air. No, I beat my body and make it my slave so that after I have preached to others, I myself will not be disqualified for the prize. 1 Corinthians 9:26-27

Consider these principles of self-leadership:

  • The hardest person to lead is myself.
  • I do not qualify to lead others until I have led myself.
  • I cannot take others further than I have gone myself.
  • I cannot take my church to the next level until I have taken myself to the next level.


Areas of Self-Leadership
  1. Punctuality – Am I generally on-time to events and appointments or do I keep people waiting?
  2. Fitness – Am I in shape or do I struggle to manage my body better?
  3. Reliability –- Can others rely on me?
  4. Food – Does my appetite control me or do I have the ability to wisely choose what to eat?
  5. Organisation – Am I in a state of chaos or is my world structured enough to get the right things done?
  6. Spiritual disciplines – Do I regularly train myself with spiritual disciplines or am I spiritually undisciplined?
  7. Motivation –  Do have the motivation to accomplish the right things today or do I often struggle with laziness?
  8. Actions = Words – Can I bridle my tongue and speak life words or do I often later regret what I say or do?
  9. Attitude – Am I characterized by a positive outlook (e.g., Tigger) or am I often complaining (e.g., Eeyore)?


13. Emotional Intelligence

Do not think of yourself more highly than you ought but rather think of yourself with sober judgement in accordance with the measure of faith God has given you. Romans 12:3

Emotional Intelligence is the ability to recognise your emotions, understand what they are telling you and realise how your emotions affect people around you. Emotional Intelligence also involves your perception of others. When you understand how they feel, it is possible to manage relationships more effectively.


Characteristics of Emotional Intelligence
  1. Self Awareness (strengths and weaknesses) – Do I have a handle on where I'm strong and where I'm weak or am I often confused when someone shares a critique of me?
  2. Self-Management (self-leadership) – Like with #12 above, can I manage myself or do I seem mastered by old habits or outside forces?
  3. Social Awareness (empathy) - Am I aware of how others feel or am I self-absorbed, oblivious to the perspective of others?
  4. Relationship Management (causing a team to work together) - Am I a team player and can manage others to get the job done or am I consistently experiencing relational tension with others in my life?



  1. Are you listening to areas of tension in your life? We all naturally tend to avoid tension in our lives. But if we have a discerning perspective, tension in our lives informs us what areas need attention. Rather than running, we should embrace these tensions; rather than ignoring tensions, we need to listen to them. Ask the Holy Spirit to put His finger on some areas...
  2. Areas of strength: Which of these relational qualities that I've listed do you consistently exhibit?
  3. Areas of weakness: Which qualities are lacking in your life?
  4. Get specific: Of the various questions I've asked above, which ones highlight areas you will need to focus on to strengthen?
  5. Identify next steps: What specific steps can you take today to get on track for developing this quality?
  6. Who can help you? Who can you share your goals with so that you build in some accountability? Contact them today.
  7. Commit it to prayer: Pray that God would bring more depth to you as a leader; pray specifically for Him to help develop those weak areas He's identified.

In Part 4, we will list seventeen essential leadership qualities that great leaders also possess.


This article was originally published here: https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/qualities-leadera-paper-took-36-years-write-denton-rod


rod dentonABOUT THE AUTHOR: Rod Denton has served as a pastor and as a teacher in the development of emerging leaders in Australia and 9 different countries across Asia with Asian Access. He now serves as a consultant for Rod Denton Equipping The Next Generation. Rod also serves part time as the Mission's Resource Consultant with the Salvation Army. More information: www.roddentoneng.com.au

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